The only constant in life is change

"If one understands that change is the only constant in life then one will more easily recognise what Heraclitus is saying in his 'obscure' writings when he claims such things as, “The way up and the way down are one and the same. Living and dead, waking and sleeping, young and old, are the same.” Heraclitus of Ephesus, Greek Philosopher

Change is something that many people dislike. I have a good friend who tells me that she hates change, yet that is something that we deal with on a daily basis. Think about all the changes in life that we deal with eg. as a child - changing ages, height, clothes, shoes and as you get older - changing schools, friends, houses, cars, jobs, getting married, having children, etc.

Most people do not like change because the change is usually something they may not have chosen for themselves. These changes have required adjustments, even if they were outside their control or decision(s) they had not made. However, the many changes that life may throw your way, often have not been your choice and yet most times, you have adjusted to the change. There are two main factors that assist in coping with change, these are:

  1. Acknowledgement
  2. Acceptance

Acknowledgment

Acknowledgment of the new or different makes change tangible and real. It feels uncomfortable at first and because of the discomfort, people tend to associate it with being wrong. It is just different. Often, people tend to find the easiest way to feel comfortable again, which is to go back to the way things were. The feeling of comfort makes it 'feel' right. Acknowledgment that the change feels different and uncomfortable, makes the change real. It enables our minds to become used to something different. This may lead to being able to accept the change.

Acceptance

As people acknowledge change and incorporate change into their everyday lives, it enables acceptance of change. When people are involved in implementing and providing feedback, it helps to empower and assist in the acceptance of change. In this way, the impact and positive effects of the change can be felt, realised and incorporated into their 'everyday'. This assists in making the change to become routine and provide 'comfort' once again. 

Overall, it helps to keep an open mind and view the change as a challenge and opportunity. Applying a positive mindset enables you to embrace change rather than resist it. Remember;

"Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end" Robin Sharma